Life shouldn’t have been this hard hey!

At times it can feel like one battle after another. Struggling with the daily triggers, emotional issues and health challenges. Never mind trying to have a ‘normal’ life, juggling relationships, work and family. How can you even be expected to know what ‘normal’ is given your history.

Life pushes you along regardless…

If you’re lucky you may just tread water, until such time as you become engulfed. Others find themselves self-harming, using drugs and alcohol as crutches and more often than not, end up in the revolving door of the criminal justice system, with no clear way out.

Some give it their all just trying to be heard, believed or gain justice, how exhausting is that!

This can lead to isolation by family and friends for daring to speak up, bursting their bubbles and making them face up to the reality that they have a paedophile in their midst.

It could be a public institution that would rather protect their reputations than tackle the issues and admit any liability.

Society at large would rather sweep child sexual abuse (CSA) under the carpet and not have to deal with such a difficult reality, than actually support the victim, see how very strong and brave they are for speaking up and stop the cycle of abuse.

Strong and brave are not words we often associate with ourselves…right? Well let me tell you, YOU are awesome, not only have you survived, you are a WARRIOR.

As children, we should have been afforded the basics of love, care, safety, warmth, food, health and vitality.

School, college, universities, should have been places of learning, wonder and encouragement.

If you’ve landed here, chances are, like me, you are one of those who know this is not always the case.

I want you to know, you are not alone!

I hope that in sharing my journey of navigating the current help and support offered via charities, ISVA’s (independent sexual violence advisors), reporting to the police and their handling of cases, getting through the court process, managing the health implications of being a survivor, talking openly with my G.P. and lastly trying to access the mental health system (yes this is no easy feat), that what I have endured will not have been in vain. That others may gain some understanding of themselves, that they will know however personal their journey they are never ‘alone’ and that by speaking up and shining a light into the dark, we are forever changed.

Whatever your reasons for landing here, I want to extend a warm welcome and hope that sharing my journey, will in some way, enable you to continue yours, in the knowledge that ‘You’re Not Alone’.


You are also most welcome if you are a G.P, health professional, campaigner, support worker, family or friend of someone who has suffered from CSA (child sexual abuse, often referred to as ‘historical’ or ‘non recent’ abuse), DV (domestic violence, this often goes hand in hand with those who have experienced CSA), mental health issues associated with CSA such as PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), Complex PTSD or DID (dissociative identity disorder) and want to learn more, so that you are better able to understand and support your clients or loved ones.


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